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A lovely remembrance of your mother-in-law. I love how age didn't stop her from giving those daily concerts. She sounds like a remarkable woman, indeed. My deepest sympathies to your wife, you, and your family.

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Mar 28Liked by James Fallows

Deepest condolences for the loss of an amazing individual, though I I know she will live on in lives of friends and family and that her memory will be a blessing

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

We are so grateful to have been a part of Frank and Angie’s lives for the last 35 + years here at Tamarind (Englewood)FL. Our children and grandchildren were so very fortunate to have met Angie and in fact one granddaughter had an opportunity to sit beside her at the piano and play a couple of tunes.

To the entire family the only words that we can offer is t hat Mom is in a better place also with Dad.

may she rest in peace.

The George & Marie Bolsch family.🙏

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Dear Bolsch family: Thank you very much. Angie (and Frank) were very grateful to have you as neighbors over all these years.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

Jim, what a glorious tribute to Deb’s. She clearly touched so many lives during her remarkable journey. May her memory continue to be a source of light and joy for all who were fortunate to know her.

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Tracy, you're very nice to write.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

What a magnificent woman! Inspiring tribute, making me really feel I must have known and loved her! Sending much love!

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Thanks very much.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

We are so grateful to your sister-in-law. Sue, who allowed a group of fellow exchange student friends to chat with Sue and Angie via Zoom earlier this month. It was great to see Angie after hearing so much about her, including via your tributes. My condolences to you, Sue, Deb, and Angie’s many other relatives. I’m sure Angie has a piano with her.

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Thank you, Linda.

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Oh wow, Jim, what an exquisite tribute. I am so sorry for Deb's and your whole family's loss, but how I admire the extraordinary life of the mom of my extraordinary friend, Deb. I looked up Executive Service Corps and wish I had the energy Angela had to get involved. How fortunate you all had to have had her in your lives. And . . . how fortunate she was to have such a devoted daughter as Deb (no accident of course--apple/tree) Love to you both, Susan

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Susan, thank you. Yes, that International Executive Service Corps was really a transformative part of their lives. They were on an initial three-month assignment in Seoul when our first son (and their first grandchild) was born in DC in 1977. They enjoyed that so much that they signed on for a three-year stint as country-directors for Indonesia, based in Jakarta. Then, later, on to Kenya and Egypt. We enjoyed going to see them in all those places — and our visit to them in Jakarta, in 1981, was when Deb and I thought "Gee, we have to move to Asia ourselves too." Which we did as soon as our younger son, Tad, turned six and seemed to be of proper age for travel, in 1986.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

Jim, here's to your father, and here's to you. Here's to the importance of challenges, curiosity and character. Also a thank you to you for sharing your reflections with the graduates of Ursinus College. I have to thank the faculty and staff at Ursinus as well, for their comment to serving, supporting and challenging the upcoming generation.

My other thought, and my life commitment: To take on what I believe is our largest challenge and our greatest failure as a generation: providing our youngest generation with the support, the caring and the education to lead successful lives. I'm failing at that. I think we all are. As I said to our HR classmates, when did we ever consider 35% a passing grade? That was the proportion of 4th and 8th graders at grade level in 2018 - pre-Covid - based on national NAEP data. And that has fallen about 10% over the past few years due to Covid.

I do share this concern and this commitment with those the board of the I Have A Dream Foundation. But we have a lot of work to do. I fear we are losing ground by the day. We are failing to support our students, their parents, our teachers and our principals, and providing them with the partners and the resources they need.

Here's to taking on this challenge with curiosity and character. Thank you, Jim, and Deb, for doing your part. You are an inspiration and role models for me and for many more.

As I told my students when I was teaching: I want to hear your voice. Whatever is true for you.

Thank you again.

Onward!

Peter

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I appreciate this very thoughtful note and salute what you are doing.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

I am so sorry for your loss. What a privilege to have had her in your life. She will be with you forever.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

Sweet! My wife's father, an interesting fellow who died too young (at 46), was one of the founders of discount retailing - Family Circle Stores, on the NJ Shore. He served with the Marines in WWII in the South Pacific, but never went to college. He had broad interests - religion, philosophy - but what I remember him best for was his advice: 'The most important decision you make in life... Pick your parents well(!)' I wish I had known him. Clearly, Deb, you followed his advice. And Jim - I bet you followed it as well. Angie - A life well lived. And a blessing. Be well. Peter P.

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Thank you! Yes, we were all very fortunate in our choice of parents... https://www.theatlantic.com/author/james-fallows/tiger-jim/

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

Thank you, James. This is one of many reminders of how a stable, loving, healthy family is such an advantage in life, and something I appreciate more with each passing year. With both of my parents now long gone, I often regret that I did not thank them more frequently for the gift they gave me and my siblings.

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Thank you. One of the (many) advantages of Angie's long life is that Deb and Sue, and the rest of us, all the way down to the seven great-grandchildren, had a chance to tell her how much she had mattered to all of us.

Deb and I were both with her in Florida this past Thanksgiving, and then just after that for her 102nd birthday, and then Christmas. She was still in her prime until just a few days after that. Deb has the relief of knowing that she had a chance to say everything that should be said.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

It's so difficult to lose a mother at any age. Just as Deb must have still been her little girl. The loss only partially tempered by having Angie for so long. What a welter of emotions! My best to the daughter and thoroughly appreciative son-in-law.

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Bill, thank you. Wisely and generously put. Deb and I appreciate your friendship over the years.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

This was so beautiful! Thank you for sharing Angie with us — what a remarkable woman she must have been. My deepest condolences to you and Deb and your family. May your precious memories give you comfort.

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Thank you!

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

So sorry for your loss and condolences to your family. What a remarkable tribute to an amazing lady. It’s clear that she left a positive mark in this world.

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Thank you. We're appreciating all the things Angie did, for so many people.

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Mar 27Liked by James Fallows

Lots of love to the whole family.

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Phil, thanks from all of us.

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Beautiful remembrance. Thank you for sharing.

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Thank you Frank.

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